THOUGH NAKED BUT NOT AFRAID GEN.2:25

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AND THEY WERE BOTH NAKED
THE MAN AND HIS WIFE Gen.2:25

One of the major family issues is SECRECY
Many marriages have crash landed
For lack of openness and gross covering up
Sometimes discovery of secrets not told
Could lead to lack of trust and faith
When nakedness is vacant in a relationship
That is when a husband and wife
Will be putting password on their systems
And phones for each other
The future of any marriage with banks of secrets
Kept by each spouse from one another
Is not heading towards a fulfilling one
 The principles of Gen.2:25
Requires the nakedness of the two spouses
That is living with each other with no cover
It reflects an unreserved total openness
There is nothing to hide from one another

Nakedness typify transparency
The lack of it can only lead to shame
It’s a duty to be carried out by both parties
To ensure each partner is well informed
About one another’s past, present and future
It shocked me one day to see a married Lady
Not well informed about what her husband does
There is no transparency at all between the
Two of them as they know not how each other fairs

OPENNESS ABOUT YOUR PAST
To a reasonable extent I do advocate
That each spouse get acquainted with their past
Though this may not be absolutely 100%
You will need to start from your childhood
Till when you meet to be absolutely 100%
But at least to a large extent
Let your spouse carry the scars and the stars
Of your yesteryears with you
Be free and unafraid
To be opened to your spouse

OPENNESS ABOUT YOUR PRESENT
Don’t spare your spouse the details of what you do
Find time when you can do a preview
Of your days with your spouse
From every gift, new friends and places you went
To new ideas, moves and actions you want to take
Let your spouse be part of your day
So take time to open up and fill him/her in
I remember when I went to minister in Ibadan
When we got back to Lagos my wife told me
‘You know you did not share that revelation
As deep as you shared it with me’
She could say that because usually she is the
First to hear whatever revelation God is giving me

Before I got married I had an experience
I met two married couples at one event
The first one introduced me to his wife
‘Dear meet Wale we meet last week at..’
He started telling his wife how we met there
The other one too introduced me to his wife
‘Dear meet Wale he is the one I told you
About last week…’ he just reminded his wife
And I learnt a lesson that stayed with me
The first one is not that transparent about his days
The other guy is very open about his days to his wife
I saw myself in the first guy
Because I am not detailed in talking like that
But that revelation made me to adjust

OPENNESS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE
Make the vision plain upon the tables
That he may run that reads it Hab.2:2
Make all your aspirations, desires
And vision plain to your spouse
Plainness about what you are set out to do
Will make you gain your spouse' commitment
And have somebody to keep you on your track
Be transparent, open and detailed about the things
That God has called you to do

Be transparent in your relationship with people
And in dealing with people of opposite sex
Be transparent in your spending
If possible have an open budget with your spouse
Be transparent in your earnings
Let your spouse know how much is coming in
Be transparent emotionally
If you have anything going on in your mind
Feel free to open up to your spouse
Be transparent physically
Be free to talk about your sexuality
Be transparent spiritually
Let your spouse know
The state of your spirituality
It helps to be each other’s keeper
Be free and unafraid
To ask questions about your spouse

SOME OF THE HINDRANCES TO OPENNESS ARE
The fear of the unknown-what may happen?
Unhealthy reactions after opening up
Judgemental attitude that builds not
Inability of a spouse to handle issues
Due to immaturity and lack of understanding
Opening up wounds that are not healed yet
Loss of trust and faith
And many others

WHAT TO DO IN HIGHLY SENSITIVE ISSUES
In case of an immature partner
Seek counsel from credible Pastor
Concerning issues of high sensitivity
Be sensitive to God’s leading
Proven mentor will also do you good

TIPS TO BOOST YOUR SPOUSE NAKEDNESS
Be understanding and caring
Have a very large heart
Learn to forget what is past and move on
Imbibe the virtue of forgiveness
Be more ready to hear than talk
You can judge issues but never judge your spouse
Don’t haste to conclusion
Whatever you do let it be in love

The moral of being naked is
Be transparent with your spouse
Never imbibe the habit of keeping secrets
Be free to talk to your spouse on any issue
Don’t keep to yourself it is very dangerous

Shalom

Wale oyebade

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